Tips to be Happy Everyday: Mind Body and Soul

Mind, body and soul all need feeding for you to feel happy in your everyday life.  I often think that balance is the key to happiness and contentment.  Balance in all these areas perhaps helps us enjoy our day to day life more.  But balance is a funny thing.  When I write the word ‘balance,’ I think “Well what happened to passion?”  Passion can lead us to throw balance out of the window in order to pursue something very motivating.

Then I think, “that is a post for another day …..” so instead here is today’s post.  Sorry about that!

Keep mind, body and soul happy
Whist we are on the earthly plane we are made up of mind, body and soul and all of these work best when they are well nourished, well supported and in balance with each other.  When any one is compromised then the other two often struggle to keep well balanced.

People often ask me for tips to be happy everyday.  And I think that one of the best things to do is see how in any one day you are satisfying the needs of your mind body and soul.  All be it in simple ways and in ways that bring you many simple pleasures. Here are a few ideas for you to think about.

MIND

 

  • Are you learning new things?
  • Do you feel stimulated in life or are you bored?
  • Do you have powerful goals that keep you moving towards something that you really want?

Mind tips to be happy everyday

  1. Challenge yourself.  Stretch your mind by learning something new. If there is something you have always wanted to do but never got round to it, now could be the time to do it.
  2. Get yourself a juicy goal! Having things that we are building towards keeps our minds active.  Often these bigger goals create long term happiness and immense satisfaction.  They can be a challenge but the brain needs challenge.  New neurons can be created even as we age when we stretch ourselves and take on new challenges.
  3. Create newness and change in your life.  The brain atrophies when we are bored. Do you always do the same things? When that happens (lets face it routine does make things easier) we can become bored and listless.  What new little (or big) thing can you do in your day to day life? Change up your routines perhaps: sleep in a different room, take a new route to work, talk to different friends, try new foods or music genres, read different fiction, go to bed at a different time – the list is endless.  Create new simple pleasures that you enjoy everyday!

BODY

  • Are you eating foods that you love?
  • Does your body feel nourished?
  • Is it easy and fun for you to move your body?
  • Do you use your body in ways that make you happy?
  • Do you enjoy being in your body?

Body tips to be happy everyday

  1. Create body rituals that you really enjoy – a morning routine can be a good time to do this or at the end of the day when you might be more relaxed.  Soothing your body with cream, long luxurious baths or showers. There are lots of options.  Rituals are more than just routines.  Rituals have a more spiritual quality about them and a greater sense of pleasure and sensuousness about them.  Their focus is mindful and celebratory.  I am reminded of my friends pleasure in her daily dressing and undressing routine.
  2. Enjoy your food.  We eat everyday and our sense of taste brings so much pleasure so why not focus on making what we eat as pleasurable as possible. Buy lovely fresh food.  Cook what you enjoy eating and enjoy the process of feeding yourself and your family. There is so much joy in food but so many women have a pain/pleasure relationship with it. Balance disappears and what remains is angst and guilt.  It’s such a waste! (If you have issues with eating and your body image please take a look at this great resource – it helped me no end several years ago.)
  3. Feeling comfy in your body is such a pleasure.  Do you have aches and pains? Are you feeling stiff and out of condition.  Creating extra moments of movement in your life will make everyday so much happier and your longterm even more so.  What would you enjoy? Walking, yoga, dance, gardening, housework – it can be anything that brings you pleasure and helps you to enjoy your body more.

SOUL

  • Do you feel emotionally connected to friends and family?
  • Are you in touch with your spiritual side?
  • What makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside?


Soul tips to be happy everyday

  1. Meditation can help you to relax and connect to your soul’s desire.  Anything that has this effect on you can increase daily happiness. Praying, dancing, writing ……. Any activity which takes you out of your day to day and into a relaxed state will create great pleasure and tranquillity.
    Mindfullness.  This is a buzz word right now but its a useful technique.  Treating and observing with respect and non-judgment the everyday things that you do. It’s called being the ‘observing self.’  It helps when you feel stressed or overwhelmed.  It quietens the mind.
  2. Connect with others. Its the one biggest thing you can do to increase your everyday and long term happiness.  Connecting can seem like a chore sometimes when you get home late from work or have had a long, busy day but taking some time out of your day to talk or do things with others will enrich your day.
  3. Doing things that you enjoy will feed your soul.  Engaging in your favourite activities on a regular basis just increases your happiness.  Why wouldn’t it?  Its part of who you are!  Listening to music, doing a hobby, seeing friends, cooking – the list is endless.

Enjoy creating a balanced mind, body and soul in your day to day life.

Please share any ideas or things you have tried.

Warm wishes

Ali P  xx

This blog post was inspired by Natalie Sisson’s 15 day Blog Challenge.  Thank you Natalie!

Learning: 5 Tips to Get Happy Today

What can you learn today?

When I feel bored or stuck in some way learning something new is the thing that best helps me to shift that negative feeling.  Learning excites me.  It always has.  That’s one of the reasons that I loved school so much and why research appealed to me as a career and why I’m passionate about working with people – because there is always something to learn.  What’s great is that it’s a resource that is never ending.  It is truly endless.

Its normal for us humans to stick to what we know. It feels safer sometimes.  But safe does not equate to growth, to finding more fulfilling ways to do things, to expanding our horizons, to creating greater happiness. And it does not have to be hard to learn new things – quite the opposite it true.

5 easy and simple things you could learn about today that would  increase your happiness quotient

  1. Learn about you
    Getting to know yourself is one of the biggest happiness tools that there are.  We are on a continuous journey and we are evolving.  What makes you happy right now? Here is a happiness questionnaire for you.  It should help focus your mind on the things you love and why you love them.   The purpose of this? So that you can concentrate on doing more of them and appreciating them in the now!
  2. Learn about a famous person
    Is there someone you have always admired from afar but don’t really know why?  Just spend a few minutes today doing a little research about them.  Wikipedia them.  Its good to have role models and heroins.  People who inspire us. Who are yours?
  3. Learn about your local area
    How much do you know and appreciate  the area in which you live?  Are there places you would like to visit but have never got round to?  Do a little bit of research and plan a trip to someone in your local area. Sometimes we forget the resources we have around us. Learning about places can inspire us to branch out.
  4. Learn about a hobby
    Is there a hobby that you have always wanted to have a go at but never really looked into it that deeply?  Sometimes learning a little can spur you into a really motivated frame of mind, where instead of thinking and wondering, you take action and try things out. Spend a few minutes today looking into that hobby.  What would be involved? Are there classes in your local area? Could you join a local group? Can you find inspiring blog posts on that hobby?  I love dancing and I’ve been known to learn hip-hop moves off Youtube whilst preparing the evening meal!
  5. Learn a practical skill
    Is there something that you have always meant to learn that would be really easy but you have never got round to?  A cooking technique perhaps, how to tie a particular knot, how to grow tomatoes.  The list could be endless.  Learning practical skills can make life so much easier.  I remember when I first learnt to wire a plug – it was an amazing revelation to me.  So easy and yet so useful.  Now I use Youtube all the time when I need to learn a practical skill.  You can guarantee that whatever you need to learn you will find someone there that has had the desire to show the world how to do it. Easy.

I’m going to learn how to make Sticky Toffee Pudding as the only puddings I ever seem to make are Apple Crumble and Apple Tart!

What could you learn today that would make your life happier and easier?

Connect with Your Wow!

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When was the last time you connected with your Wow!?

What is that? I hear you ask.

What is you Wow!?
Your Wow! times are those moments of when you are at the top of your game. When you have felt that you are standing on the top of the mountain of your life. At your happiest and most content.  When you know you are in the right place at the right time and everything just feels perfect.

How often are you in your Wow?
Those Wow! times should be the norm.  It’s about living your life in full harmony with who you really are. But for many of us this feeling is rare.  But does it have to be? Imagine being in your Wow! state more often.  How amazing would that be?

Exercise for connecting with your Wow!

  1. Create a small amount of thinking time for yourself.
  2. Be ready with pen and paper.  Create your heading: Wow! Times.  You will keep this list and keep adding to it over time.
  3. Relax in whichever way suits you best.
  4. Look back over your life at the defining happy moments.  The times/moments that you were at your happiest.  This could be defining moments when everything felt right.  Certain activities. Or even periods of time.  Happy times at work, school, in relationships.  Times when you felt totally yourself and in flow with the world.
  5. Focus on the feelings, on what exactly was good about those times.  What gave you those feelings of pleasure and satisfaction.
  6. Write down the events/times.  You will begin to build a picture of what really, really makes you happy, content and satisfied with life.  What do these moments/period of time have in common?  You will see themes begin to emerge.  Its fascinating (I was quite surprised at a couple of mine.  Things that I had forgotten that brought me so much joy and that I definitely have not done enough of.)

Using your Wow! discoveries
Your Wow! discoveries are one of the keys to creating greater happiness in your life right now.  When you look at the themes of your past joys and notice that some of these may be missing today you can refocus now and redirect.

Your Wow! list can serve as a reminder when you feel lacklustre and unsure as to where you are headed next.  Some questions to ask yourself:

  • How can I get more of these Wow! moments into my life?
  • What can I do today to move closer to the Wow! life I deserve?

Would you like to share one of your Wow! moments.  What is the essence of what was so good about it?

 

 

Talk Back to Those Gremlins!

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We all do it.  That little voice that seems to appear from nowhere ….

  • I’m not good at this
  • I can’t do that
  • I don’t have time
  • I’m not sure
  • What will they think?
  • I’m such an idiot

Would you talk like that to a loved one?

The answer is ‘probably not.’

Talking to those gremlins
Next time you catch yourself talking like that to yourself, pause for a moment …. and talk back.  Don’t allow your negative gremlin to get away with it.  Give it a challenge and ask yourself the following 5 questions:

  1. Really? Is that REALLY true?
  2. What is helpful about talking to myself in this way?
  3. What could I say to myself right now that is true and more empowering?
  4. What do I really want and need right now that is making me talk to myself in such a negative way? Make it a juicy statement of intent!
  5. What can I put into place to help me achieve this?

For a wonderful book about taming your gremlin check out Taming Your Gremlin (Revised Edition): A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way.

Repeatedly challenging those gremlins will give you a truer and more positive perspective of yourself.

And you deserve that. We all do.

Do you want your gremlin to shut the f….k up? Start talking back to your gremlin.

Gratitude: Creating a BIG FAT THANK YOU

Gratitude is one of the ways we can appreciate the lives we have right now.  It helps us to up our happiness levels and this in turn sets the Law of Attraction Wheels in motion.

I was jotting down daily things that I was grateful for but I lost the fun and joy of it.  The whole exercise became boring, repetitive and really not very joyful.  It was too much, too often.  So rather than little and often (and not very well) I thought about how I could really EXPRESS my gratitude more fully. So as to create an ACTION of gratitude.  Not just a thought or emotion but an actual ACTION.

Thoughts and feelings are powerful and the Law of Attraction energy is certainly unleashed when these two are strong but ACTION is much MORE powerful.  It’s an outside expression of what’s inside us. It’s there, its tangible.  It has stronger energy waves – it’s the manifestation of energy, creative energy.  And as we act in accordance with our highest desires we are reinforcing our thoughts and feelings.

So to create an expression of gratitude that not only serves to make me feel good but others too, I hit upon the idea of ……

THE BIG FAT THANK YOU

A Big Fat Thank You is taking gratitude to the next level.  It’s taking grateful thoughts and feelings and converting them into action.

Creating a Big FAT Thank You

Big fat Thank You’s can take many forms.  There are two important points here

  1. You must be truly grateful.  True gratitude can motivate you to move mountains in order to say thanks.
  2. Your thank you has to be something that feels special when you create it.  Something that you create and develop from a place of love and FUN.

There are natural and obvious opportunities to give and create a Big Deal Thank You

  • birthdays
  • anniversaries
  • religious holidays

But in reality any time is good.

Creating a Big Fat Thank You

  • Write a massive list of all the things, people and events that you feel grateful for
  • Ask yourself – What am I so grateful for that I am moved to create a Big Fat Thank You for?
  • Think of ways that you could SHOW your gratitude.  Take your time and reject ideas that feel too hard for you in any way.  Whether its time, money, energy, logistics.  Reject anything that does not feel light, fun and free. Make it easy.
  • When you feel motivated everything is easy.
  • Take action.  Don’t sit on it!
  • Make this an active practise.  Don’t sit on those feelings of gratitude.  Often we get inspired ideas when we are grateful but we don’t act on them.  This happens to me all the time.  I have great ideas of giving back and then …. I just don’t.

Some Big Fat Thank You ideas

  • write a poem
  • send a card
  • write a letter
  • bake a cake
  • offer your time
  • help
  • prepare a special meal
  • make a gift
  • buy a gift
  • record and send a gratitude message
  • create and air a Youtube video
  • create an altar of gratitude
  • make a gratitude mood board
  • donate time or money
  • pass on a book
  • write a blog post
  • write an email

Enjoy! I’m off to write a postcard, scribble on some stones and maybe to create a Youtube thank you.  I’ll keep you posted.

Is there anyone or anything that you feel a great amount of gratitude towards right now?  What Big Fat Thank You could you create for them?