Are you Fit for Giving?

tired woman

Women often put themselves last in an effort to make other’s lives easier.  Is it effective?  Often is isn’t.  When we are depleted then it becomes increasingly hard to help others.  We we try to make others happy perhaps and to fulfil their needs but what about ours?

Fulfilling your needs is a priority.  Not only does it make you personally happier but it also enables you to share of yourself in the way that those around you need.

Think about times you have felt emotionally, physically and spiritually full and well – it’s a feeling of great abundance.  A feeling that spills out to others.  You have more energy, more ‘ability’  and even desire to give, to share.

Think about times when you are exhausted and depleted.  What do you have to give?  And when you do give, is it with pleasure or with resentment.

The feelings and thoughts in these two scenarios are very different.

Giving and receiving: The Law of Attraction
When we give with joy and abundance the person who receives the help feels gooood.  They know you want to give to them, they know they are not taking anything from you because you are giving from a place of joy and abundance.  You are giving from a place where you feel good and able and willing.

We all know that feeling when someone does something for you but they don’t really want to, right?  It just does not feel the same.  Sometimes it can make us feel guilty or beholden.  We might have preferred not to have received the help in the first place.

The practical element is the same.  The giver gives and the recipient receives but the feelings are poles apart.  From a Law of Attraction point of view the energy exchange is are from harmonious.

Make time for you
If being there for other people is important for you then you need to make sure that your own well is full so that you have lots of abundant, happy energy left over for others.

A big part of this is ensuring you make time for yourself.  Making sure that in those times you are fulfilling your needs for the following:

  • rest and relaxation
  • doing things that you enjoy
  • doing things that fulfil your higher goals and missions

When was the last time you ‘gave’ with pure joy and abundance of spirit?  Are you struggling to help others because your well is running low?

If you struggle with finding natural time for you perhaps you could benefit from making it a habit.  Check out my free Happiness Habits Formula workbook.  It helps you design easy habits which assist you to live a happier life.

Much love

Ali x

This post was inspired by Natalie Sisson’s 15 Day Blog Challenge on Facebook.


Gratitude: Creating a BIG FAT THANK YOU

Gratitude is one of the ways we can appreciate the lives we have right now.  It helps us to up our happiness levels and this in turn sets the Law of Attraction Wheels in motion.

I was jotting down daily things that I was grateful for but I lost the fun and joy of it.  The whole exercise became boring, repetitive and really not very joyful.  It was too much, too often.  So rather than little and often (and not very well) I thought about how I could really EXPRESS my gratitude more fully. So as to create an ACTION of gratitude.  Not just a thought or emotion but an actual ACTION.

Thoughts and feelings are powerful and the Law of Attraction energy is certainly unleashed when these two are strong but ACTION is much MORE powerful.  It’s an outside expression of what’s inside us. It’s there, its tangible.  It has stronger energy waves – it’s the manifestation of energy, creative energy.  And as we act in accordance with our highest desires we are reinforcing our thoughts and feelings.

So to create an expression of gratitude that not only serves to make me feel good but others too, I hit upon the idea of ……


A Big Fat Thank You is taking gratitude to the next level.  It’s taking grateful thoughts and feelings and converting them into action.

Creating a Big FAT Thank You

Big fat Thank You’s can take many forms.  There are two important points here

  1. You must be truly grateful.  True gratitude can motivate you to move mountains in order to say thanks.
  2. Your thank you has to be something that feels special when you create it.  Something that you create and develop from a place of love and FUN.

There are natural and obvious opportunities to give and create a Big Deal Thank You

  • birthdays
  • anniversaries
  • religious holidays

But in reality any time is good.

Creating a Big Fat Thank You

  • Write a massive list of all the things, people and events that you feel grateful for
  • Ask yourself – What am I so grateful for that I am moved to create a Big Fat Thank You for?
  • Think of ways that you could SHOW your gratitude.  Take your time and reject ideas that feel too hard for you in any way.  Whether its time, money, energy, logistics.  Reject anything that does not feel light, fun and free. Make it easy.
  • When you feel motivated everything is easy.
  • Take action.  Don’t sit on it!
  • Make this an active practise.  Don’t sit on those feelings of gratitude.  Often we get inspired ideas when we are grateful but we don’t act on them.  This happens to me all the time.  I have great ideas of giving back and then …. I just don’t.

Some Big Fat Thank You ideas

  • write a poem
  • send a card
  • write a letter
  • bake a cake
  • offer your time
  • help
  • prepare a special meal
  • make a gift
  • buy a gift
  • record and send a gratitude message
  • create and air a Youtube video
  • create an altar of gratitude
  • make a gratitude mood board
  • donate time or money
  • pass on a book
  • write a blog post
  • write an email

Enjoy! I’m off to write a postcard, scribble on some stones and maybe to create a Youtube thank you.  I’ll keep you posted.

Is there anyone or anything that you feel a great amount of gratitude towards right now?  What Big Fat Thank You could you create for them?




Happiness Quotation of the Week

Dance like there is nobody watching!


Dancing is pure bliss and happiness for me.  Getting lost in the rhythm of the music.  It feels like a sexy meditation of some sort.  Loosening the mind, body and soul all at the same time.  Is there anything that makes you feel like this?

Some people talk about getting the same type of experience from running or walking or playing a sport or even an instrument.  Yoga is a good one that I also enjoy. How about sex?   Its when all parts of you feel connected and in harmony, working as one.

Apart from the feel good ‘now’ feelings, of course, the long term health benefits of using your body are marvellous.  Any habits which increase your well-being in this way can only increase health and happiness. Habit creation can sometimes take a little bit of effort but when its something you adore doing anyway then you are halfway there.  Check out my free Happiness Creation Formula for creating easy, intutive happiness habits that support you.

Is there anything that makes you feel happy in the mind, body and soul all at the same time? Could you do more of it?  Could you create an effortless habit out of it to increase your fun and happiness levels?